1. I really would like to be part of this scene but I am not sure if I could pull this through. Not because of all these bullies but the look is more extreme than what I used to look like. I think not caring for what other people say is the real deal about being “in scene”, right?

  2. Leor

    Here’s the problem with the internet… I can’t tell if this is a joke or not!
    No offense if this is a completely sincere question though.
    But here’s what it breaks down to: why should you feel the need to ascribe to some code of dress? For what it’s worth, it’s usually fashion that’s been a major factor in the devolution of many genres of music… look at emo’s own precursor: hardcore. Once the hardcore anti-fashion became so regimented, it was another nail in the casket for the original wave of hardcore, as the rigidity and close-mindedness that was expressed in fashion became expressed in every other form of expression, right down to the opinions of individuals who began to join the scene, but all for the wrong reasons (most of that scene’s progenitors “left” hardcore when it became imbued with individuals who sought violence rather than a cohesive community).
    The same can easily be said of emo; once the fashion was whiddled down to a few words describing a stereotype, many a band coming out not only dressed that way, but kept a rigid form of musical, lyrical, and cultural expression. And then came the backlash, inaccurate media reports, and the bad rap emo still caries with it. But that only speaks to a small portion of emo, mostly a chunk of the mainstream (and luckily, not the entirety of mainstream emo – if it were, the “genre” would have been a bygone era in the mainstream by now).

    Anyway, you should really do what you want to do and not let anyone make your decisions for you; it may be a cliché, but there’s reason for that, and that’s because there is some truth to the statement. Make your own decisions, simply put! Dress how you want, listen to what you want, and enjoy what you like and you’ll be better off. If folks scoff at you because you don’t dress a certain way or act a certain way, well, screw them. Simply put. It shouldn’t matter, and why would you want to be part of a “scene” that would immediately judge you… doesn’t sound like an open, welcoming community, which some of the best scenes are… that’s how many of these subcultures and genres formed in the first place, with the help of a welcoming and culturally open community that allows for its individuals to challenge themselves in different forms of expression… Wearing a uniform has nothing to do with it.

    And as far as the last part of the comment… there’s nothing wrong with listening to your peers and friends, taking their advice, arguing with them, etc… but that doesn’t mean “not caring for what other people say” makes you “the real deal.” That’s something I’ve honestly never heard of… unless you’re talking to the image of an archetypal hipster, aka near-narcicistic uncaring for individuals unlike themselves… but again, that’s a stereotype that perhaps a few individuals actually uphold and therefore manage to keep said stereotype going…

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